The number one secret no one tells you about self-esteem

You know when you’re feeling down and think I’m not good enough or I’ll never succeed and then you start to feel angry or sad or frustrated? That’s low self-esteem. It’s something that affects many people but did you know there is a secret overcoming low self-esteem and self doubt. That’s what this video is about.

My name is Janet Rhynie, Quantum Change Coah, here to Educe , Elevate and Liberate you mind to live a ife you have yet to imagine.

I remember when I was leaving the probation service to set up my own company. At that point all I’ve ever known is working in the public sector but I had a passion and a heart to deliver training on my own terms. I have been a training facilitator for the past five years working with clients and customers who didn’t want to be in my presence. As such I learnt such fundamental skills as establishing rapport how to move a group forward but also what works within groups and what didn’t and so the passion to develop people utilising the experience and expertise I had gained is pulling my heart.

I remember thinking about setting up by myself and then the thoughts that came in where well will I get any contracts because I’m a black woman and the only trainers I’ve ever really seen a white males a few white females maybe the odd black male I’ve never seen a black female trainer within criminal justice and then I started to think well what if I’m not good enough compare to these other facilitator in trainers will I get work how will I pay the bills if I don’t get work and this whole spiral of negative self talk caused me to doubt the plans and the future I had for myself.

But then I thought about the alternative which was to stay within an organisation doing something I absolutely hate it for the rest of my life I then looked at the fact the organisation had asked me to deliver training on their behalf as well as balancing a managerial post. And realised the fun I had when delivering training and focusing on developing in equipping people to live a better life cause me to take a 180° turn which has resulted in me having my business for the last 1516 years.

Why is it so hard to believe we are good enough?

It’s true because we are born with all the confidence and self-esteem we ever need. If you don’t believe me, look at a baby or a toddler up until the age of two. They’re not looking around to see if other people are watching them comparing their nappy to the child’s nappy beside them; they are in the moment living and being all they could be right at that moment.

But what happens is we start to listen to what society says we should or should not do, what our teachers teach us, what the media says to us. We begin to doubt ourselves; in fact, we start constructing ourselves in the image others have imposed upon us. This is called a self-fulfilling prophecy. The majority of those labels or the messages we hear are harmful, and we start to doubt ourselves and question how good we are. As a result, we think we have to do something to feel better about ourselves, but we cannot improve our self-esteem by doing something. That is a temporary feeling by the thought you attribute to the thing you have done.

So what’s the one secret that people tell you that no one tells you?. That you have all the self-esteem within you. You have to remember.

What is it we have to remember:

Your true identity.

We forget there is more to us than the physical; there is the spiritual. We are more space than matter, and there is more power in that space than in the matter we see. When we remember who and what we are, our identity, we begin to see the world in a whole new way.

Understanding how we create our experience moment by moment.

Yes, we know thoughts create our experience moment by moment, but it’s not every thought. Some researchers have said we can have up to 60,000 thoughts per day, but we’re not utilising the 60,000 thoughts to create our reality. We have the same couple of hundred thoughts every day and those we employ to make our experience. If the majority of those thoughts are negative, then guess what? We have a negative experience of ourselves. When we understand how we create our experience by the thinking we believe to be true moment by moment, how we see ourselves begins to change.

It’s inside out world 100% of the time!

Yes, 100% of the time, there are no exceptions. I know there are times we can say, ‘But what about this and when this person upset me?’ It’s an inside-out world 100% of the time.

Conclusion.

So, what is the one secret nobody tells you? That one secret is you already have all the self-esteem you require. You just have to remember and understand.

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MY NAME IS…

Janet Rhynie

My purpose is to elevate and liberate your mind from limitation to live the life you have yet to imagine and change the life of those for generations to come.

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