Six Tips to Survive the First Year After Divorce

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Making it through the very first year of divorce is hard. After the initial shock and grieving for your former life, many people are left feeling lost. You might begin feeling like you have been deserted or neglected by every person close to you.

Below are seven pointers for making it through the very first year after separation:

Don’t Rush

It may feel hard to stop a rush, and it can feel like there is no turning back once it starts. The moment’s pressure consumes you, and all other considerations fly out the window. A way to stop the rush is to take deep breaths, which creates a moment of calm, giving you time for self-reflection.

Remember to Take Care of Yourself

It’s easy for mayhem to reign in your new life, and you may neglect to care for yourself and your health. These are essential things to remember, even if you feel like you don’t have time or are too busy.

Making time for what you want and need is essential for happiness and self-care. When was the last time you did something for yourself? It doesn’t have to be anything significant! Maybe it’s taking a walk, getting a manicure, or having lunch with a friend. We all require pointers from time to time that we’re worth it!

The Unknown

When you’re getting a divorce, it can feel like the sky is falling. You may be feeling lost and scared, wondering what will happen next. It can be hard to make decisions or think about the future because many unknowns exist. The only way someone could have a clear idea of what they are going for is by knowing themselves and their aspirations well enough. To do this, one must take time out in life to explore who one is as an individual.

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Be patient – With Yourself!

It’s never simple to go through a divorce. You may have been with your spouse for decades, and now you’re alone and struggling. It’s so easy to feel like you’ve been abandoned or forgotten about by everyone close to you. But know that this is a normal feeling in the first year of divorce.

Start by taking one small step. And then another, and another. Ultimately, you will get to where you desire because, with each action, your confidence grows in yourself and the steps taken so far. The more patience a person has with themselves, the easier it is for them to continue on their journey of personal development and growth while being mindful of what they need along the way – which may consist of rest or time off from a particular task.

Face Your Fears

Divorce can be a challenging transition. You may experience a lot of fear and sadness, which often lead to avoidance behaviours. You may feel like you do nothing all day but cry or stare at the wall, yet it’s vital to keep in mind some individuals care about you. The only way to overcome fear is through gaining knowledge and understanding. The more you know about something, the less scary it becomes for you. This movement encourages people to explore their fears to conquer them – face your fears head-on!

Learn to Love Again

Learning how to love again is vital. After the divorce, it can be hard to find your groove, and you might start feeling lonely or depressed. But there’s also something called post-divorce recovery – where you learn how to love again after your life has changed so drastically with this event happening in it – which can take months, if not years, before everything feels right again.

It may not be easy, and you will never forget what feels like the world’s end. Still, you can do this with time, patience and an understanding that getting your happiness again means taking charge in life without abandoning yourself or those around you to get through these challenging stages.

Spirit versus ego can seem to think both of these aspects of our human self are at odds with each other. However, when we understand the roles each plays within our life we understand they work together helping us as humans to navigate this world.

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Janet Rhynie

My purpose is to elevate and liberate your mind from limitation to live the life you have yet to imagine and change the life of those for generations to come.


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