Living ego or soul Copy

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Have you ever noticed how your ego and your soul can seem as if they’re all with one another? It’s like they’re constantly fighting for your attention and your time. I admit I’ve been a slave to my ego in the past but then I realised I was missing so many opportunities because my ego was so focused on what I was trying to achieve. I started paying more attention to my son and I learned this ultimate guide to having a fulfilled life.

Approximately five years ago after going through my divorce I knew I had changed and was changing. The number of times I was asked to do things and I would automatically say no, as that was my default position. One day during meditation what came to me was saying yes to God and also listening to Shonda Rhimes and when she had a year of years and so what came to me was 365 days of saying yes to God. I didn’t do the full 365 days but what that one statement did was to open me up to listening more to my wisdom, my soul and making decisions.

The ego is often described as a mind’s tendency to remain stuck in the past and bring it into the future. It can often be said to be a tug of war between the head, logic and what I think is right and the heart, what feels right

The ego can be said to be selfish with no interest in consciousness. The ego is self-centred and believes the world exists around them and for their own ends. In some instances, the egoic personality will not even believe the soul exists. The ego can create the illusion of separation and striving.

The soul on the other hand is more aligned to the spiritual healing demonstrations of love, compassion and goodwill. Connectedness to all that is.

How can you tell if you’re leaving from Spirit or from Ego?

Based on the description given, when you’re living from the ego, it is very self centred, out for what you can get. There can also be a feeling of striving, working hard, willing to do whatever it takes to get the result, which in some instances could mean taking advantage of other people for your own ends.

There is also the need to be right; to constantly correct and show an air of superiority.

When living from spirit, your soul, it feels like living from heart, wanting to view service to others from a place of compassion.

Which is the best place?

There is no one better place as ego and soul play their roles within a multi dimensional human being. There are times when we need to be aware of ourselves as the ego not only wants us to achieve and strive but also plays a role in protecting us. The ego is not the enemy, the ego has been developed over time based on the experiences that you’ve had about things that have hurt us and then you’ve created different strategies to protect ourselves. Once again the ego is a self-created personality and I’ve said in previous blogs because it’s self-created it’s not real and can also be changed.

To only live from the heart and be compassionate without awareness could lead to being taken advantage of and so we need a combination of the two with the soul to inform the ego of what action to take.

So in conclusion

Spirit versus ego can seem to think both of these aspects of our human self are at odds with each other, however, when we understand the roles each plays within our life we understand they work together helping us as humans to navigate this world.

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What does ego death look like?

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The death of the ego could be an interesting experience. It’s important to know what it feels so we recognise it when it happens.

Ego death, in a nutshell, is “to lose control of oneself; one’s conscious awareness (ego) is replaced by the unconscious…This may happen spontaneously, without warning and while one is awake. Ego death often results in a complete loss of a sense of time and self. The subject might also feel that he or she has merged with or become the object of their perception, or that the border between inner thoughts and reality has been dissolved. The experience may be accompanied by feelings of joy, peace, or bliss.” – Wikipedia

I recall being on the beach walking early in the morning. I was listening to the audiobook of The Impersonal Life and looking out to sea as I walked. The sun was shining and it was a perfect morning. I sat down and watched the tide coming in  and witnessed a drop of water on my hand. As I watched the drop of water a fly landed on my hand and started to drink from the water. At that moment I realised I was meant to be in that spot so the fly could drink of the water. I then looked out to the water. I thought I’m also part of the sea and the sand and everything I could see. At that moment I was connected to all things and Janet did not exist. A wave of emotion overcame me as I’ll be going to realise the enormity of what I was and what I was a part of. And in realising that I snapped out of that beautiful moment and came back to being Janet being aware of myself.

What is ego.

Ego is the use of conscious thoughts and behaviour that we use to create our identity. This self centred thinking is what creates separate realities, objects and places. Some  people can have an inflated view of their abilities and believe they are more successful than they actually se. This could be deemed to be an inflated egoEgo is the use of conscious thoughts and behaviour that we use to create our identity. This self centred thinking is what creates separate realities, objects and places. Some  people can have an inflated view of their abilities and believe they are more successful than they actually se. This could be deemed to be an inflated ego

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How is it beneficial

Remember the ego is created based upon previous experiences and different behaviours in order to deal with different situations. As such it gives the illusion of security and control. However, the ego begins to fall apart when old behaviours do not resolve a new situation. A person can then begin to feel insecure as they are not sure what to do in a situation. Id a person persists and insists on continuing to do the same thing over and over again without resolving a situation a person can become frustrated angry and even depressed. 

Death is good.

In this situation, the ego has to die in order for the new situation to be resolved. It may not be an enlightening experience as described above. It could be a moment of frustration and despair to the point you give up because nothing you have tried has worked previously. In This moment,there is space of new thought to emerge as you release the old behaviour patterns, creating space for something new to evolve. As such the old way of doing things and an aspect of the old ego has to fall away to make space for the new person to evolve.

When the eagle falls away you’re able to see the world around you differently and more opportunities present themselves to you. This is because the old way of thinking has fallen away and there is new space for new sort of conscious thought thought in the moment of thought from your spirit to come to the fore.

The more we enter into new situations the more the old ego has to die and we encounter new situations and new experiences.

There can also be a feeling of lightness as the need to protect, the need to achieve and strive starts to fall away.

How to embrace this state of mind.

Although things may seem fearful the fear only exists because the ego is falling away and it’s trying to protect itself but have to remember the ego isn’t something separate the ego is something you created which is part of your personality at a time when you needed to develop strategies and techniques to develop yourself to protect yourself or to achieve certain goals. In understanding in a different space and time there is no need for you to protect yourself.

When there is less ego and striving there is more spirit and soul forming the basis of your decisions.

You learn to go with the flow because even if things don’t work out as planned as things never do you recognise and accept the situation for what it is at that time and act in alignment With the current situation.

As such when you’re either dies you’re able to listen and hear your soul be guided by heart by love you navigate this experience of life. If you want to go deeper into this journey.

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Living ego or soul

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Have you ever noticed how your ego and your soul can seem as if they’re all with one another? It’s like they’re constantly fighting for your attention and your time. I admit I’ve been a slave to my ego in the past but then I realised I was missing so many opportunities because my ego was so focused on what I was trying to achieve. I started paying more attention to my son and I learned this ultimate guide to having a fulfilled life.

Approximately five years ago after going through my divorce I knew I had changed and was changing. The number of times I was asked to do things and I would automatically say no, as that was my default position. One day during meditation what came to me was saying yes to God and also listening to Shonda Rhimes and when she had a year of years and so what came to me was 365 days of saying yes to God. I didn’t do the full 365 days but what that one statement did was to open me up to listening more to my wisdom, my soul and making decisions.

The ego is often described as a mind’s tendency to remain stuck in the past and bring it into the future. It can often be said to be a tug of war between the head, logic and what I think is right and the heart, what feels right

The ego can be said to be selfish with no interest in consciousness. The ego is self-centred and believes the world exists around them and for their own ends. In some instances, the egoic personality will not even believe the soul exists. The ego can create the illusion of separation and striving.

The soul on the other hand is more aligned to the spiritual healing demonstrations of love, compassion and goodwill. Connectedness to all that is.

How can you tell if you’re leaving from Spirit or from Ego?

Based on the description given, when you’re living from the ego, it is very self centred, out for what you can get. There can also be a feeling of striving, working hard, willing to do whatever it takes to get the result, which in some instances could mean taking advantage of other people for your own ends.

There is also the need to be right; to constantly correct and show an air of superiority.

When living from spirit, your soul, it feels like living from heart, wanting to view service to others from a place of compassion.

Which is the best place?

There is no one better place as ego and soul play their roles within a multi dimensional human being. There are times when we need to be aware of ourselves as the ego not only wants us to achieve and strive but also plays a role in protecting us. The ego is not the enemy, the ego has been developed over time based on the experiences that you’ve had about things that have hurt us and then you’ve created different strategies to protect ourselves. Once again the ego is a self-created personality and I’ve said in previous blogs because it’s self-created it’s not real and can also be changed.

To only live from the heart and be compassionate without awareness could lead to being taken advantage of and so we need a combination of the two with the soul to inform the ego of what action to take.

So in conclusion

Spirit versus ego can seem to think both of these aspects of our human self are at odds with each other, however, when we understand the roles each plays within our life we understand they work together helping us as humans to navigate this world.

If you want to know more click the link below to access a free resource. 

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Self-esteem versus self-image

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When did you first learn to compare yourself to others? 

I don’t remember when I first started doing it, but I recall a situation recently when I was on the Facebook page looking at pictures of friends and family, and I saw pictures of women my age. I can’t help but compare myself to them if they look fitter than me or look healthier than me. Not only was I comparing myself, but I was also judging myself!  

The truth is, comparing yourself to others is not a bad thing; it’s natural, but what’s not natural is how we sometimes measure our self-worth by this comparison. e.g., am I good enough, am I worthy because I am not like…. The way we measure our self-worth should not be in contrast to others.

The difference between self-esteem and self-image

Comparison! Whether that is a comparison of where we are and where we want to be or comparing ourselves to another person, this can directly impact our thoughts and feelings.

I said comparison previously is not a bad thing; however, when comparison leads to judgement, this could lead to low self-esteem. This is when comparison becomes unhealthy. 

What do we base our self-esteem and self-image on?

Comparison! Whether that is a comparison of where we are and where we want to be or comparing ourselves to another person, this can directly impact our thoughts and feelings.

I said comparison previously is not a bad thing; however, when comparison leads to judgement, this could lead to low self-esteem. This is when comparison becomes unhealthy. 

How to stop comparisonitis

  1. Realise your self-image and self-esteem as a construct. It is a construct because image and esteem are based on the thinking we believe to be true about ourselves. In a previous video, I have spoken about personal reality versus universal reality. How we see ourselves and think about ourselves is based upon the thinking we believe to be true.

    But all of these things are our thoughts and views. They are not universal truths. When I speak universal truths, everybody looking at something experiences it precisely the same way, e.g.gravity. In recognising self-esteem self-worth as personal constructs, we then can start to question the truth and validity of those thoughts we haven’t believed to be accurate.
  2. Return to source.
    When we realise and recognise that our true nature is spiritual, our self-image and self-esteem take a back seat as we allow our innate wisdom to take the lead. When you come from the outside perspective, you place greater importance on your self-image and self-esteem. When you start from a place of truth in your true essence, you can still have the thoughts of image and esteem body doesn’t hold the meaning and emotional tension for you.
  3. Self-esteem and self-image are all an illusion.
    We create our self-esteem and self-image through comparison because this is where society would have you look at the outside and the only way to improve outside is to do or buy more. But when you recognise you are enough, you can realise that you are a phenomenal spiritual being having a human experience. You see the thought for what it is an illusion that has no power over you but for the power you give it.

In conclusion

So in looking at self-esteem and self-image, they are different and yet have a direct impact upon each other, however, none of that is essential when you look to the actual source and your true nature.

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How realistic is self image?.

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Humans are perfect in their imperfection!

There is no such thing as a perfect human being. We have our thought created reality, we make mistakes, and things don’t turn out the way we want. However, when we start to compare our self-image to one we think is perfect, this can directly impact our self-worth and self-image.

I remember being 16 and wanting to be like the popular girls in school. They were tall, slim with long flowing hair. As one of a handful of black girls in the school, this was going to be impossible. However it did not stop me from wanting to look like them, and be like them. This led to a period of restrictive eating and over doing exercise in a bid to look as slim as them. Also having a perm on my head to give a softer look to my afro hair. With few black role models in the media, my peers were my role models and what they said or thought about me felt very important and as such shaped how I saw myself and had a direct impact on the decisions I made and the actions I took.

The trouble is we’ve been conditioned to base our self-image on what others think of us to be. So the clothes we wear, our social circle, job even the hobbies we have could be contributing factors to that self-image. Very much based upon what others see.

What if we based our self-image and self-worth on our authenticity and how we treat others and take care of others? Just a thought!!!

What is self-image?

In previous videos, we have spoken in-depth about what is self-image and what is self-esteem but a brief overview is;

self-image is how you see yourself, describe yourself to somebody else, and self-esteem is how you think about yourself, positively or negatively.

How is our self-image developed? 

Self-image can be based upon our physical attributes; eye colour, weight. The social roles we play, student, wife,member of the team can also be contributing factors. Even personal traits, impulsive and generous can be added to the image created.

As time passes, some people become more reliant upon others to define us. This is not a conscious choice in many cases, but we infer from what a person says. For example, if we receive a compliment about a particular outfit, this may influence how you dress to get more compliments.

But how realistic is self-image?

In a previous blog called The Matrix, the thinking we believe to be true creates self-image. So the example of someone paying a compliment may be internalised and directly impacts how a person dresses. If that person continues to believe what others say, your image becomes determined by others. Therefore it can be as changeable with the seasons.


Or if we return to my 16-year-old self, what I saw in others and what others said to me determined what I wore and how I acted. Now others could have been friends or the media, the sources could have been numerous. But as the name indicates, ’image’, is a picture, a representation of the external form of a person or thing in art. The representation is not the whole picture.

Your identity.

This is what is beneath the image. Unlike the image, which is seen on the outside, identity is who you truly are. Not what you believe yourself to be, but more profound than that; your true essence. This essence is spiritual, formless, never changing. Some call it your soul. 

Some of the attributes associated with true identity are love and compassion.

If your soul determined your self-image, then your image would not be superficial or transient, changing with the latest trend. Instead, your image would be a reflection of who you truly are, the love you are..

Conclusion

Therefore, in conclusion, your image is just a representation, but is it a representation of the opinions of others or is it a reflection of your soul?

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The number one secret no one tells you about self-esteem

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You know when you’re feeling down and think I’m not good enough or I’ll never succeed and then you start to feel angry or sad or frustrated? That’s low self-esteem. It’s something that affects many people but did you know there is a secret overcoming low self-esteem and self doubt. That’s what this video is about.

My name is Janet Rhynie, Quantum Change Coah, here to Educe , Elevate and Liberate you mind to live a ife you have yet to imagine.

I remember when I was leaving the probation service to set up my own company. At that point all I’ve ever known is working in the public sector but I had a passion and a heart to deliver training on my own terms. I have been a training facilitator for the past five years working with clients and customers who didn’t want to be in my presence. As such I learnt such fundamental skills as establishing rapport how to move a group forward but also what works within groups and what didn’t and so the passion to develop people utilising the experience and expertise I had gained is pulling my heart.

I remember thinking about setting up by myself and then the thoughts that came in where well will I get any contracts because I’m a black woman and the only trainers I’ve ever really seen a white males a few white females maybe the odd black male I’ve never seen a black female trainer within criminal justice and then I started to think well what if I’m not good enough compare to these other facilitator in trainers will I get work how will I pay the bills if I don’t get work and this whole spiral of negative self talk caused me to doubt the plans and the future I had for myself.

But then I thought about the alternative which was to stay within an organisation doing something I absolutely hate it for the rest of my life I then looked at the fact the organisation had asked me to deliver training on their behalf as well as balancing a managerial post. And realised the fun I had when delivering training and focusing on developing in equipping people to live a better life cause me to take a 180° turn which has resulted in me having my business for the last 1516 years.

Why is it so hard to believe we are good enough?

 

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When the mind is without fear

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What would it be like to have a mind without fear? Is such a thing possible. Well let find out in this video.

My name is Janet Rhynie and I am here to Educe, Elevate and Liberate your mind to live a life yet to be imagined.

When the mind is without fear, the body meets no resistance, no  confusion, the world is clear and simple. We experience more peace and the world seems more silent is silent and still. and the truth remains.

What is the mind?

Many people use the word mind and brain interchangeably but they are two different things. 

The brain is the physical matter. An organ of soft nervous tissue containing the school vertebrae is functioning as the coordinating Centre of sensation and intellectual and nervous activity.

The mind could be said to be the energy that runs the brain, the energy behind your life that is thoughts and lights of the brain when in motion.

It is the element of a person that enables them to be aware of the world of their experiences, to think and to feel is the faculty of consciousness and thought.

The power of the mind. 

The mind is so great that can create the world of its own desire. Remember in the previous paragraph when we stated it was a faculty of consciousness, and thought. These two principles enable us to create our experience by the thinking we believe to be true moment by moment. 

This is the power of the mind. We are creating our own personal experience moment by moment and most of us are not even aware this is what we are doing and as such it looks like a reality is something that external to ask in essence it’s internal.

In one of my previous blogs regarding the matrix and in the states about no they self. When you understand and know how powerful the mind ease how powerful you are and how you’re creating experiences moment by moment your world experience changes.

How do you get a mind without fear?. 

Well this seems to be a trick question because the mind has no fear. Remember mind is energy it’s the power behind thought,  the power behind consciousness and as such the mind does not have fear. Fear is created from the thinking we believe to be true. And so the real question is how to be free of fear ? Freedom from fear comes with understanding of how you’re creating your experience moment by moment. 

With reference to the blog what is quantum change coaching here we recognise and understand starting from a position of mind, the powerhouse we are reminded how powerful we are as mind, how we create our experience moment by moment by thought and the paradigm by which we create our experience moment by moment.

As such we understand and experience what it is to be free of fear and being in a state where we allow mind to flow freely without the constraints of limited beliefs and negative thoughts.

 

Conclusion

 

So a starting point is when the mind is without fear the conclusion is the mind is always without fear but for the thinking we believe to be true that masks the power of mind in Leeds is to leave leave lives based upon for years.

 

When we understand our true nature as mind,   the power of Mind and how we create experience moment by moment we begin to see a glimpse of what life is like living from a place of mind.

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What does it mean to be Free From Fear?

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Fear is a feeling that is common to all human beings. It’s a natural reaction to the unknown in the imagined, and it can be an instinctual response to danger. We use the phrase ‘fear of’ to describe an emotion often associated with a particular thing or situation. E.g. fear of flying, fear of spiders. What does it mean to be free from fear? That’s not a simple answer. It often means overcoming the fear of the unknown, the fear of what might happen, the fear of the past or the fear of what others may think.

What is Fear? 

Do you remember the last time you felt fear? Were you being chased, in a fight or was it the fear of trying something new and failing? I do! Recently when I decided to become more visible on social media and create blogs, consistently for the first time in years!

Why? Because I was anxious about being judged, what others may think of me. Sure! I have been in the personal development field for decades and I know most of the theories. However, that instictual reaction can still make it’s presence known.

Fear is an instinctual reaction to the unknown. It causes your adrenaline levels to rise. This increases the heart rate and makes your brain frantically search for the what-ifs.

So the feeling of fear is completely natural as it is a response to the unknown.

How do you overcome the fear of the unknown?

Ask Different Questions.

Not the type of questions that will take you down the rabbit hole of further fear. E.g This will not work? What will people think? If this does not work I am a failure?

Instead ask questions that will cause you to explore the situation form a different persepctive:

  • What do I know about the situation?

  • What’s at stake here?

  • What is the worst that can happen?

  • What if I’m wrong?

  • What if I’m right?

  • What’s the worst that can happen if I’m right?

 Focus on the solution

Focusing on the solution can relieve some of the feelings of fear.
Frequently we are focused on everything that can go wrong within this situation. That’s what creates fear instead of focusing on what could go right and what could work. Yes, it’s healthy to look at the obstacles, but if all you are looking at is the obstacles, you will constantly be battling against what you have created in your head.

Listening to the reason for being afraid.

When you truly begin to listen to what you are saying to yourself, hearing from an objective place instead of subjective, you begin to see things from a different perspective.
When I started to listen to the reasons for my fear of being more visible, I had to weigh it against the reason for wanting to be more visible. My mission and passion to draw out the briliance in people to live a life they have yet to imaging beat the thoughts and feelings of fear I was experiencing. As such, I gained greater clarity about the situation and why I was having fearful thoughts.

What Does it Mean to be Free from Fear?

That’s not an easy answer. As we have seen, fear is natural, instinctive and plays a role within our lives to protect us. So the issue is not to be free of fear but more be mindful your life is not governed by fear!

It can be rewarding to look at the freedom you’ve gained because the fear was no longer holding you back from the life you want to live. Also, with freedom comes responsibility because now you know where your fear comes from, so now you have more agency and responsibility for your own life.

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Hidden benefits of quantum Change

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What is a Quantum change? In a previous video, we spoke about Quantum Change, but this is a short video to highlight the benefits I have seen in my life and continue to see.

When a person first comes to me, they have an issue or a problem, personal or professional. 

Rather than focus on what that person deems to be the problem, I work with you to understand the principles behind all human experience. As a result, not only is the perceived problem resolved but there are other benefits.

Here are just a few: 

Benefits

  1. Fewer arguments –  You can see a different perspective. E.g. in the past, I would have thought my then ex-husband was to blame for a specific thing. Arguments ensue. Now, I see my thoughts and the perspective I believed to be true.
  2. Re-define self – You recognise and see the self-image you created. Because you made it, that image changes with greater awareness
  3. You don’t have to do anything – You don’t have to change yourself to be a better person; you automatically change. The more you see the illusion you have created about yourself, the less of the behaviours regarding your old self turn up. E.g.arguments.
  4. Quietens the negative self-talk – The negative self-talk resulted from the self-image you were constantly trying to uphold. The judgments about who you should and should not be. Without that image to maintain, the judgements become less and fade.
  5. Increased confidence – With less on your mind, you now have clarity of mind to make decisions.
  6. Trust wisdom – You being to listen to intuition once again.

Here’s what others have said

Morning my dear. While you are on my mind I just wanted you to know. What I learnt from you has got me through some difficult times. I am on a journey because of what you taught me about the stories I  tell myself and the thoughts I have. I laugh at times at what I make up and am so much more aware. So thank you. I have moved from the person I was and am continuing to blossom. My journey continues as it is a process with time. Have a blessed day. 

JL Counsellor

 I understood everything she taught me, and it has been invaluable to my life and the lives of my close friends and family. I have totally changed the way I think, I no longer require constant approval and I have stopped seeking approval from others. I know what and who I am, and I am happy with that.

Kimberly – Business owner.

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Are you living in the matrix?

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When I first embarked upon this journey of Quantum Change Coach, I said to my then mentor that life is like the Matrix, and he responded by stating, That’s one way of looking at it, Janet, but not many people see that. 

Anybody who knows me knows that I love the movie The Matrix. Throughout the different stages in my life, The Matrix has played a significant role by pointing out certain truths.

Whether it’s when I was in church or cognitive endeavours,  20+ years on, this movie still has relevance, so I wanted to share some of these insights with you.

What is The Matrix? 

It’s a movie from 1999 with Keanu Reeves, Laurence Fishburne and Cari-Anne Moss. It’s about a group of people living in a fabricated reality. It makes you think about what is real and what it means to be living in the matrix.

For this article, the Matrix is what you believe to be true. How you interpret a situation or think about a person, you can think these thoughts and feelings are authentic. As such, those same feelings must be the same for anyone else looking at this situation or think about a person. But that is not universally true.

When we fail to consider another perspective or recognise the role we have played in creating the personal experience, worse still, not even realising you have a personal experience, you could be said to be living in the Matrix.

What is reality?

No two people ever see things the same way.

You can be in the same room as another person, but they will see things in different ways, feel things in different ways interpret things in different ways based upon the thinking they believed to be true moment by moment.

However, many people do not realise this and believe how they see the world is actual. Still, in essence, it’s a personal reality, not a universal reality where everybody sees things in the same way. The movie was getting you to question what is real and what is fabricated. 

Understanding reality is relevant to daily living because arguments start due to the way you interpret a situation. You may think the way you see a situation as accurate, universally and expect others to see things the way you do, but in essence, that is your reality. Distinguishing what is universally true and a personal truth can lead to a more peaceful life. 

Three things I have seen

Unlearning to see the truth.

When Ne-Yo ( Keanu Reeves character) wakes up in the real world, he realises that everything he believed was true in the matrix was a simulation. He has to unlearn everything he thought was true to understand this new world, the actual reality.

I some ways, this can be said about our experience. You can often walk through this life thinking everyone sees life the way you do. As stated earlier, this can be the basis for many arguments. When you start to see that your life experience is based upon values and beliefs personal to you, your life experience changes. You begin to see what your judgments are based upon, and in seeing this, the decisions start to fade because they only led to arguments. The more you see this, the more the unhelpful values and beliefs disappear. 

Destructive truth

Once you have seen the truth, you can’t go back to the lie. As much as you would like to ‘un-see it as it can seem more convenient, it can’t be unseen, and all the fallacies fall away.

This truth can be pretty scary as everything you had believed to be true turns out to be a fallacy. With the support and guidance of a Quantum Change Coach, you can be safe knowing the truth cannot hurt you. The truth refines you to let go of the stories you have created about your life so you can live your life from a place of authenticity.

Know thyself

In one of my favourite scenes in The Matrix, Neo goes to see the Oracle. Above the door in Latin is the phrase ‘Knows Thy Self’.

As stated previously, you can believe what others ( media, friends, teachers) say about you and not look any further than that.

When you understand who and what you are.

When you can see the role your values and beliefs play when trying to make sense of a situation. 

When you understand the fundamental principles behind all human experience, then you begin to understand yourself. And as you start to understand yourself, you understand others because the same fundamental principles apply.

What does it mean to be living in the matrix?

Finally, do you choose to reject the truth and stay in the matrix?

A character in the movie called Cypher wants to be plugged back into the matrix because he finds reality difficult to live with.

Many people choose not to see the truth because it means taking responsibility for your life. Many people avoid that responsibility and would rather believe in what they are being told and even up to their self-esteem or prophecy.

Conclusion

For many, our daily lives can seem like we live in a matrix, listening and believing what others state about us, never looking further and seeking the truth as such remain plugged into your personal reality.

However, if you choose to ‘Know thyself, you will see you are powerful beyond measure!

If you choose to wake up and have a glimpse of reality, click the link and have an alignment session with me.

MY NAME IS…

Janet Rhynie

My purpose is to elevate and liberate your mind from limitation to live the life you have yet to imagine and change the life of those for generations to come.

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